I got married at 21 years of age and by 23 I had my first baby on the way. Life was busy. I had already squeezed in a lot – a degree, travel, work with disadvantaged youth. But once the first child was born I realized I didn’t even comprehend what busy could really look like. Add to that renovating every house we lived in, running youth groups and Bible Schools, and trying to earn enough money just to survive each week, and then a couple more kids to boot, life was full on.
It wasn’t until my youngest baby reached high school that I even started to think about my own life needs and wants. I realize that I am one of the fortunate ones. I have been able to pick and chose a little what I do to earn money. I’ve had the privilege of adding further education into my mix and having a husband who has been willing to support my journey. So many of us reach middle age and have to remember who we really are.
Reaching deep into our souls we try and rediscover the things that ignited us in the earlier days. And we must do this. Life works better on every level when we are following the path of our own choosing, rather than letting the days rush by without consideration of our innate passions and desires.
In my process I found these questions helpful to ask myself as I tried to find my purpose:
- What matters most to me?
- Who matters most to me?
- What do I like to do for fun?
- What concerns me? Why?
- What is my greatest accomplishment so far?
- Am I a night owl or an early bird?
- How do I show others I care about them?
- Am I an introvert of extrovert?
- What is my happiest memory?
- What do I do to treat myself?
Here’s to a bright future full of activities that you love!